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In this day and age, we see anxiety running rampant through the generations. Many people feel an overwhelming sense of helplessness because they have no control over their life. This is what leads to prevalent anxiety in individuals no matter their age, race, or gender. This can often become crippling for their health; mentally, physically and socially. We see this struggle directly affecting people’s sense of self-worth, which inevitably affects how people value each other. I am here to tell you all about how in order for you to have control of your life, you have to take control. Don Miguel Ruiz provides a practical means to this end in his book, The Four Agreements.
Mentally, if one can become disciplined with their train of thought, they can prevent a great deal of needless suffering. One of Don Miguel Ruiz’s agreements is “don’t make assumptions”. Making assumptions leads people away from the reality of what is and takes them into the far corners of their imagination, where the worst possible scenarios are explored. This leads to doubt, fear, and anxiety that can be avoided by not letting your train of thoughts derail or digress from the facts. It is the thought that counts after all, right?
Physically, Don Miguel Ruiz invites readers to agree to “always do your best”. An individual’s personal best can vary not only from person to person but from day to day. The state of one’s health, as well as our energy level and mood, is different from day to day. By keeping in mind to always do your best, we have a way to honor our own abilities as they ebb and flow on a daily basis. This practice allows for genuine peace of mind and body at the end of each day. The level of contentment that comes from a job well done is immeasurable. How well that job was done is up to you and only you because you are the only one who knows what you are truly capable of. Putting more emphasis on your own satisfaction than the opinions of others is crucial. Let us normalize taking pride in our own efforts, no matter the results.
Socially, Don Miguel Ruiz presents two agreements to implement. “Don’t take things personally” is by far easier said than done. It’s practically human nature to think that the world revolves around yourself. I know I genuinely thought this was the case all throughout my childhood. Then, as an adult, it finally occurred to me that we ought to stop thinking of ourselves, and our own best interest first. By doing this we create an opportunity to put others first. Remembering daily that the actions of others do not remotely depend on our own actions or existence.
“Be impeccable with your word” is the last and most important agreement we will explore. Impeccable is defined by Merriam-Webster as “free from fault” meaning that what you say or even think should render no negative outcome. Integrity is not permanent, once it has been compromised it is nearly impossible to restore. Avoiding spiteful thoughts as well as gossip can not only prevent unnecessary drama in life but can also safeguard your reputation.
So if you find yourself constantly facing conflict or drama in your life, practicing this widely explored concept of manifesting one’s reality may be just the cure. It would take the earnest effort of implementing these ideas into your lifestyle on a consistent basis to see a shift in reality. However, it is possible to create a daily sense of serenity, by simply taking the necessary steps to evolve as well as leaving behind habits that no longer serve you. This type of thinking is especially beneficial to families as a family lawyer such as Brandy Austin Law Firm, PLLC will tell you. It can help bring families together in tough times and help to restore a family’s strength.
